Wednesday, March 02, 2005

Qaisism: 1:01 Making an Impression

"First Impression counts, so does the second, third and so on..."

There is a saying "First impression is the best impression" that has led many of us into believing that if we couldn't give a very good impression to somebody when we first met him/her, we will never be good in his/her opinion.

Contrarily, my belief is that even the second, third and following impressions count. They can either add up to first impression or create their own space and sometimes, very much reverse the first impression. So we must keep trying our best.

Looking at it from the other side, we must not base our final opinions about people we see and meet, solely on first impressions. Well, i admit that first impression does help us form an opinion about a person but it should be kept in soft and molten form. It should be like a rough draft of an essay which can be improved and enriched with further time, effort and exposure. Making an opinion about a person as soon as we meet a person does help us in the long run. We can rely on our first opinion if we never happen to see that person again but if we meet that person more than once, then we should try to add, subtract or change our opinions so as to collaborate all the experiences with the particular person.

All this opinion-making process helps us in learning to understand people faster. In other words, it accounts for our better understanding of people, in general. All of us have our own parameters to gauge people. We all have our own unique standards and we tend to observe people under our own microscopic or telescopic lenses. So, in order to be successful, we need to know about our expectations from various people and we also need to know "what do we want to project ourselves as", to certain people.

So, that's all from me about "giving and making impressions". Hope that gave some insight into me. ;-)

~ Qais